Warning Signs Of A Toxic Relationship

You ought to know the warning signs of a toxic relationship before it's too late.

Although your spouse says they love you, their behavior don’t back it up. Do you know how this feels like?

Warning Signs 

• Your spouse embarrasses you in front of others.
• You have made sacrifices just to please him/her.
• Your spouse is controlling – looking through your e-mails or appearing at places that you go just to see if you are there.
• Your spouse attempts to make you dependent on them.

Have you noticed how certain people make you feel depressed just being close to them?  It's like a depression magnet as soon as they appear.

Why would you find yourself in a toxic relationship?

Why would you choose to be in a toxic relationship?

Well, the truth is by the time you start realizing that you might be in a toxic relationship, you have your two feet right in the relationship.

Toxic Relationship

In a toxic relationship, the spouse will make you feel rotten about yourself.  Will make you feel guilty for everything that goes wrong and it is always your fault, isn't it? How can you not feel depressed and worthless when someone treats you this way.

Here are the cycles of a toxic relationship:

• Honeymoon phase

• Blow ups

• Getting back together

• The cycle starts again and usually with greater impact

At the beginning of the relationship, you are of course in the honeymoon cycle. When you finally realize that you are in a toxic relationship, it's already too late; you are stuck. At this stage, you might think nothing can be changed.

Generally, growing up in a toxic home will have a person end up in a toxic relationship.  The outcome is that this person will repeat the pattern of their younger years without even realizing it.  The worst part is they don't know any better.

The injured spouse believe they are not worthy of happiness.  However, some find that they take pleasure of caring for someone else.

Would you treat someone you love this way?  If not, why would you let someone else treat you this way?

First off, if you have read up until here, I want to tell you how sorry i am to hear you are feeling like this and that it might be because of a toxic relationship.  I know exactly what you are going through and it's an extremely hard period in your life.  Don't forget you have choices and you have to think of yourself and your well-being in this difficult period.

Continue reading an I'll show you some options and guides that can help you.

Generally in most toxic relationships, the toxic spouse has taught you to believe that it is all your fault.  After you believe this,  it can be quite challenging to either leave the relationship or set new limitations to repair the relationship.

People with low self esteem or suffering with depression often find themselves in these types of relationships.  Once you realize that you're in a toxic relationship, there are options and you have choices. The first step is to know what is best for you. The next step is to stand up for yourself. Your happiness and well-being depends on it.

Therapy groups can help you restore your self-esteem and teach you how to express yourself.

When you are aware of the warning signs of a toxic person, some are able to break the cycle.  Some end up leaving their relationship and establish new, healthier bonds.  Make the right decision for YOUR happiness. 

Some folks are in fact able to restore their relationship and remain in it.

At times, with a little space, some relationships are able to be restored.  Other occasions, counseling is required.  If both partners are willing to make an effort, it is possible to replenish the bonds in a healthy way.

Now, you have decisions to make.  Is the relationship able to improve?  If not, you must be willing to walk away.

Remember that this toxic relationship is not healthy for YOU and the situation will only get worst.  If there is no change, you will never heal.

Start to assert your needs in a toxic relationship once you separate yourself from the dependency.  Try this and start saying:

• "I need you to be honest"

• "I want you to be sincere"

• "I deserve to be happy"

You should be prepared to walk if your spouse doesn't meet your needs and your partner should be aware that you will truly walk away if things don't change.Be assertive and make sure your partner knows you are serious.

In a healthy relationship the desires of both partners are met.

Warning Signs Of A Toxic Relationship

In a toxic relationship, only the desires of one person is met. You must take matters into your own hands and make the necessary changes.

Don't kid yourself in believing that this toxic relationship is okay because nobody deserves to be treated this way; not even YOU.  Your needs must be met too.

Remember that we're in 2011 and everyone including yourself has the right to express your own feelings.  Don't let anyone make you believe otherwise.  Stand up for yourself. You can do it.

If you've recognized yourself in this article, you don't deserve to be treated this way another minute.  Take action now:  Warning Signs Of A Toxic Relationship